"When Will They?....."

"It's not what you know, it's who you know"

This is a phrase that is often spoken but we never realize how true it is. But the problem with this is that if we only rely on who we know, how are we going to grow, be independent and emerge into our own potential?

One of the worst bad habits that we reach in either our teenage or adult years is asking the question, "When will they..?" This can follow into the categories of jobs, relationships, friendships and other situations that we cross in our lives. For example, maybe you have been dreaming of going into a career where you do not have that much experience. A friend you have says they know someone who works in that career and says that they can help you out with a job. You then are put into the position of having to wait, rely and constantly reach out to them to hear back about the position...that someone else said you could get. The problem with this is that you cannot rely on other people to hand you your dream job or career. You can't expect your friends to try to set you up with new friends or into a relationship. The reason why this is a problem is because the second you rely on someone else it begs the question..."How bad do you really want it?", "How motivated are you?" "Will you always let or expect your dreams, goals, etc to just be handed to you?"

These are important questions because once you give up your power, motivation, desire and responsibility, you are left with never having your own independence or freedom. You are left into the negative mindset and habit of always waiting for the "next best thing" or the "next best person" to give you what you should be getting or working towards on your own. There is no greater feeling then working towards a goal, a job, a career or relationship and finally having your goal come true. Why did it come true? Because you put your own energy, motivation, desire, patience and handwork into what you wanted. When you rely on other people, you are giving them the chance to say no. But, when you work and achieve what you are aiming to accomplish, the feeling and pay off is that much more worth it.

​You truly earned it!