Self-Love doesn't come overnight

The popular phrase, "You cannot fall or be in love with someone else if you do not love or are in love with yourself first" is extremely true but often disregarded. It is often disregarded because people believe that they can love someone else without feeling love for themself first. When you know who you are and love yourself, loving others comes easily and from a true and genuine place. 

Maybe they really care for someone but do not care much about themselves. Maybe they feel so deeply for other people but do not know how to love themselves. 

Sometimes in life we go through times of loss, stress, or trauma that effects us in a deep way. Maybe you just got out of a relationship, lost a family member, eating and drinking unhealthy or you stop taking care of your mind of body. You may say, "Oh well, I'll just move on and love myself immediately because that's what I need right now." this may be your thought process at first, but honestly, this is hurtful to yourself in the long run and is not the right way to heal and love yourself truly.

​Loving yourself and learning how to care deeply about yourself does not come easily or overnight. It may take years or until you are in your prime adult years until you learn how to love yourself and feel confident in your own skin. 

Acceptance is the key to loving yourself 
​Social media surrounds us everyday capturing our attention and focus. We scroll endlessly throughout different applications and see hundreds of messages and content daily. What we see on social media and interact with has a huge impact on ourselves, even if we don't admit it to others. We may see celebrities or friends post pictures or content and feel that we are behind. We may feel not as successful, good looking , talented or special. It is important to limit the time you spend on social media because your time you spend online can strongly influence how you feel and how you feel about yourself. It is important to not compare yourself to anyone because we are all different and unique. While this is difficult to do and takes time, it is critical.
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​Accepting yourself and who you are not just gives you self love and confidence but others will feel the radiance of your confidence and love too. 
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