Sometimes in life, we lose things that mean a great deal to us. Weather is it a job, a relationship, a friendship or something else.
It can make us overthink, over stress and overanalyze every moment, conversation or interaction which led up to this moment of loss. Some experts say that "Time heals all". Though this statement is true, there are many more factors than just letting the days pass by to give you more "time". Time can help you move on, but it takes more than just time.
For example, if you just got broken up with or ended a relationship, time can help you focus on yourself, get your confidence back and heal yourself. But it takes so much more than just time. You have to really believe that you were meant for better, deserve better and get back your power and confidence. Of course this is easier said than done, but these factors are critical to really healing and moving forward with your life after a relationship that meant so much to you. Maybe you were a partner who invested so much time and energy into helping your partner achieve their goals, ideas and dreams. While this is a great foundation to have in any relationship, you do not want to over invest yourself into any relationship. When you over invest and are available all the time to help, you get taken for granted. You time, ideas and energy can be stolen or taken for granted and you end up giving out your best version of yourself to someone who didn't appreciate it. It can be difficult to move on from a relationship by someone who you thought was your 'best friend', but in our life; we meet people everyday who teach us lessons. It helps to think that "people don't abandon people they love or care about, they abandon people they were using." This quote is helpful and insightful because it shows that you can have a relationship with someone, but their intentions and actions speak more clearly than their words. You may think that the "world is ending" after losing your partner, but I promise you, there is so another adventure for you out in the world. You will find happiness, your ideal partner and it ever won't be too much. You will get your confidence back, your boundaries and self-worth will be stronger and you will never look back and think "why wasn't I enough?".
If you just got fired from a job or lost a huge opportunity, it can be difficult to put yourself back out there and start over again. Sometimes in life, people may think that a job 'defines' us. After years of my own experience, it can give you more insight into who a person is, but a job isn't who a person is. It can be difficult to move on after you have invested so much of your time, energy and focus in a job that discarded you or didn't serve you. It can be difficult to start over and move on with your life after losing one of your main sources of income that supported you. One of the best ways that you can overcome this is to update your resume. This is a simple tip, but it really can set you apart from the competition. Nowadays with the new generation, people are becoming more creative and jobs are becoming more competitive. If you just have a black and white cluttered resume, how does this set you apart from the competition? Another way that can help you move on is to find out what you are really passionate about. So many people enter jobs that serve them financially, but not emotionally. If you are not emotionally invested in your job and are passionate about it, how can you ensure that you will be okay with waking up everyday and continuing a job that doesn't serve you happiness? Everyone deserves to have a job that they love, are passionate about and that can provide for them. Your needs are what is the most important!
Friendships are also another aspect life where they come and go. You may have had a huge group of friends in middle school, high school or even college. You may have considered these friends to be "the best people you ever met" or a "true friend" who would be around for life. While we grow older, change into who we are and life takes it course, friendships change. Maybe you move, go to a new school or just fall out of contact. These are obstacles that often break apart friendships. While it may be difficult to let go of past friendships or a current friendship, it is more important to have a few people in your true circle who know you are, you can depend on and those who will truly be there for you. It can be hard to move on from someone who was in your life for a long period of time, but there is always someone else who will celebrate your success, be there for you when you need it and listen to you when you need to be heard. It may not come easily, but the journey is worth it.